Leadership coaches like to have questions handy to ask a prospective client in that first conversation. Here are a few I like to ask: If we worked together, what would you want the result to be? Why do you believe that result hasn’t happened yet? What do you believe people who have that kind of …
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Some leadership coaches who identify as “introverts” (or people who just hate selling), stare at their computer screens thinking about all those skeptical strangers they’re going to have to talk to today and start feeling a version of stage fright. Especially when they have to sell their services to so-called “powerful” leaders. What coaches love …
One of the challenges of being a leadership coach and being your own boss with no one watching over your activities, is the temptation to get pulled away from the mission and respond to everyone who wants your attention. This quote I put in my book Time Warrior is more true for coaches than anyone …
It has become clear to me in coaching people (including myself) that there are two fundamental principles a client must learn, practice and embrace before they can be happy and at peace on the inside, and fulfilled, engaged and flourishing on the outside. The first is “I’m upset because…” when that thought is followed by …
Silence can be strange, uncharted territory for both leaders and coaches. When our egos are agitated and threatened we start talking more and more, trying to fill the air with a tone of superiority and words of significance. We fear the very silence that would connect us to the people we are communicating with. I …
One of the most brilliant minds I’ve ever encountered in my time on this planet is that of Werner Erhard. He’s always been a controversial figure, but in my experience the people who have the most critical things to say about him are those who know the least about what he really teaches. His training …
When we were children we were always in close touch with what we wanted. We ran around looking for it and had no problem asking for it. But as we grew older, interacting with society now, we switched from Want To to Should Do… trying to find out from others what they think we should …
You can’t motivate someone who can’t hear you. If what you’re saying is bouncing off their psychological armor, it makes little difference how good you are at saying it, you are not being heard. Your people have to hear you to be moved by you. In order for someone to hear you, they must first …
Some coaches make themselves available to clients between sessions and some do not. Your coaching practice system on this is yours to create! My clients can email me between calls and get a short, spot call of 15 minutes if something important comes up between sessions. But I want to get an agreement ahead of …
Last year, we published The Well-Being Bucket List: 29 Mindful Choices for Older Adults. It is a sort of written podcast of conversations in which we explore possibilities for living that, if chosen, could better serve our well-being (and that of those around us) each day, perhaps for the rest of our lives. (We are …
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